2sexy4u2c! Sounds familiar, in assumption, that’s the usual mind set of our teens, adolescent and singles today; especially in America. A renewed sense of self-awareness or in other words, thinking, “wow, I exists!” or "beautiful freedom!"

I call these years the rebirth of one’s self (personal renaissance). Meaning, it is at this point that one really realize that they exist. It is really at this point that the last stage of shaping one’s mind really develops. So much so that ‘back in the days,’ the great King of Babylon, Nebuchadnezzar, captured and tried to use some of the wisest men of Israel. Among the most intellectual were Daniel and the three Hebrew boys who were thrown in the fire. When they were captured, they were approximately all under fifteen years of age. After Nebuchadnezzar’s three years ‘brain-washing’ conversion strategy, some were barely over fifteen; though, God didn’t allow it to work. Why all this at such a tender age? Manipulation!

Hitler said that if he got a generation of youths, he would take over the world. Why? It is at this point that one is most vulnerable to learn anything and once shaped, it can hardly break. One’s mind could be marred forever, if God doesn’t allow it. Therefore, this crucial stage in one’s life must be dealt with godly caution and not carelessly, as it is treated today. Especially knowing that it is at these years the clay is almost hard and so the last shaping must take place. Why then, at this most vulnerable time should one be seeking to know someone else, when one hardly knows him or herself? Why should we seek to get our minds emotionally entangled when we don’t know the three most vital questions to man – where am I coming from? Why am I here? And, where am I going?

Why not spend some time seeking the will of God for your life? Why not? It is possible that a lack of this has resulted in the great rise of dysfunctional adults (teenults). Reason being, while in their teenage/singles years, whether indirectly or directly, they were yanked away from knowing themselves in relation to God, due to pre-marital relationships and other related activities. The teenage and post teenage years are called adolescence, by interpretation that should read, “adult-lessons.”

One of the main reasons for this dysfunctional behavior is peer pressure. Yes, you might object, but if you were to live in an environment where there is no nudity and s¥x on television, no ‘p@rn’ on the web and in magazines, no public display of affection (PDA), no improperly covered women and men walking the streets, less stress on the beautification of the outward appearance and much reverence for God, one wouldn’t feel like having a ‘boy friend’ or ‘girl friend’.

Many persons, in the pass, coming from a background where their parents are ministers, are usually innocent to the lusts of the world. All their lives, they may have been sheltered: -home, church, church outings, school, and back home again. Such persons see no evil, speak no evil, and hear no evil; consequently, they do no evil. On the other hand, unfortunately, some fall prey to unwed children and many shocking occurrences contrary to their parent’s belief. Why? When the opportunity arose to be exposed, BAM! They had no mechanism to deal with what the real world is about, if they weren’t digesting the word under their parent’s tutelage all these years. This mostly happens to innocent young Christian from remote countries that have traveled to the West for schooling and job opportunities.

It is most difficult in this century to be a teen or single adult and trying to know God or keep focus. However, it’s imperative that you do so or else life will take some ugly swings at you. Do you really want to know what to do in your teenage years? The noted example with the first man Adam will provide such great information. God graced him to walk with him, mouth-to-mouth and moment-to-moment. By this relationship, God declared his purpose, “dominion over the earth.” God also graced Adam to work with him in ministry; that is, naming all the animals. Adam was so into God that he was not thinking about a mate, but it was God who decided that it was not good for him to be alone. Some might go as far as to say, he was the first man and had no prior knowledge of a mate or male female relationship. Wrong! He was graced to name every animal; by this he would have seen that each male animal had a female counter-part. He also saw that the males usually jump on the females back and use the same exact thing that was also created below his waist. He could have argued with God and asked to be like these animals with a female “jockey-ride” partner (pardon my vocal, trying to get a point across). However, it isn’t recorded that he did.

1. Likewise, teens or single adult should first develop an excellent relationship with the LORD, whereby everyday you are walking and talking with Him exactly as Adam did. If it were not possible I would not have written it.

2. By this relationship, you must then come to the full assurance of your purpose in life, which only God can rectify. Do you know that it pleases God when a young man/woman sets their heart and mind to find his purpose for their life? Moreover, a bible proverb said that it pleases God “to hide a thing and for kings [you] to search it out.” Do you want to please God? Let him develop his purpose in you before you get entangled emotionally with another being - dating.

3. While this is ongoing, one must be involved in ministry willingly and it should be something that is apart of or will develop your ultimate purpose. Again, let God rectify that with you and not an arbitrary person; so it means you have to seek to have a relationship with God. Don’t you dare let any arbitrary person tell you your purpose and it has not been rectified with “The Creator.” Whom does one go to for a blue print, the architect or the construction worker? You have direct access to the throne of God, no matter how young you are. Remember the fifteen-year-old boy Daniel in the Bible, noted today as one of the most accurate prophetic authors.

4. Then, like Adam, while you are doing all that, God is on the other side fixing the mate that you will just adore. “Believe you me, you will, if you believe it.” Then when you ask your daddy (God), being in his presence every second, he will just tell you and the peace of God will go with it. Then it won’t take forever to get married (probably less than a year), for God would have set the compatibility already, him knowing all things. At least give him that credit of sovereignty! Also, notice that God didn’t make Eve and then told Adam, “date her for a while or ‘try her out’ and if he didn’t like her, I’ll make another one for you, dearest.” However, when God made her, Adam exclaimed, “WO!” “MAN!” In other words, one would not go to the merchandise to try and know it really well to buy it: instead, just go to the maker and he will tell you where, how, what type and when to obtain it. Then you can trust the maker, for he is the on who made the ‘specs.’

So, it all boils down to this bible verse, “Seek ye first the kingdom of heaven and all it’s righteousness and all these things shall be added unto you” (Math 6:33). I’m a witness, it really works. If you are saved and you don’t have a clue what the term justification means, much more what it entails, you haven’t begun to “seek first the kingdom of heaven and all it’s righteousness.”

I remember at a Singles Conference at my church, this particular elder, extremely anointed, gave his testimony. I thought he was married for years. But to my surprise he was recently married for the first time at 40. His wife is equally anointed and beautiful; I mean this couple is a dual power pack; you must hear them preach’ and prophesy. In his narration at the Singles Conference, he said he didn’t date nor was overtaken it in. In other words, for 40 years he was a virgin, while studying the word of God. Now he has a beautifully anointed, educated and responsible wife and child. He’s also an architect and holds a masters degree; his wife is also coherent and works with the finances of a bank. When you talk about money they have it; the first time I knew him, he drove a BMW. When you talk about spiritual statue (if there is such a thing) he has it. How? Why? Where? By what means? This man, my elder, left the best example of the ‘Adam Experience’, staying a single virgin and making himself merry in the Lord during those years. And I believe every young person today can do the same, until the time is right.

With God you can stand on his word. Don’t give in to peer pressure, give in to God and stand of his word. For his word is sure and stands forever. Leave the ‘boyfriend’ and ‘girlfriend’ relationship alone. Think about completing the “Adam Experience,” knowing what God has called you to do, without a doubt. Leave it alone until you have had your mind exercise to discern between good and evil. Leave it alone until God ‘hooks’ you up with the right person. Then you don’t have to worry if the person will look good or be compatible. All that is good and perfect comes from Him: for God will grant you the desires of your heart. Jesus was recorded as saying that if anyone being a father, having a son, the son asking for bread, will he give him a stone instead; him also asking for eggs will he give him scorpions (Mt 7:9). In other words, much more God; will he give you something to hurt you? Will he give you a husband to beat you? Or, will he give you an extremely nagging wife? NO! He “is not the author of confusion.” He will give you the desires of your heart.

If these principles were applied to our present generation, the divorce rate would be zero. In other words, marriages that result in divorce have failed to apply this principle of first “hooking up” with God totally and seeking him for all endeavors. In addition, multiple relationships before marriage is only a rehearsal for divorce. Think, one is practicing breaking up and starting over again, so when an uncomfortable occurrence happens in marriage, one will often execute what they have practiced - breaking up and starting over - divorce.

In concluding, dating should be corner-stoned on first seeking godly dialogue and purposeful fulfillment. It should result in marriage and shouldn’t be a means to express ones’ need to socially relate to the opposite s¥x. Dating for the sake of dating is “plain old lust.” That’s even a worse dilemma of one’s soul.

Wait I say on the Lord.

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