"At Silver Lake High School, the ninth grade health text teaches:
'testing your ability to function sexually and to give
pleasure to another person maybe less threatening in
the early teens with people of your own sex'. Also,
'you may come to the conclusion that growing up means
rejecting the values of your parents.' Students were
told to keep the book in their lockers and not take
it home."
Three things were incredible
wrong with this picture and the third shows that biblical
and true sex education can and needs to be taught in
our schools. One, in a high school in America, sexual
experiment was encouraged among teens. Second, sexual
experiment was encouraged with the same sex. And thirdly,
to show that “they” know this is wrong, students were
told not to carry the text book home. In other words,
they were silently teaching the students hedonistic
values with a hope their parents don't find out. This
happened in America, where the “unbiblical minority”
are prohibiting any religious freedom in schools. If
this can be taught, biblical and 'true' sex education
should be taught in schools again. Teens should not
be experimenting with sexuality at such a time, much
more to experiment with homosexuality. Biblical and
'true' sex education will show why this should not be.
This is the intent of this descriptive essay, without
trying to be persuasive.
I call the teenage
years and single years the rebirth of one’s self (personal
renaissance). Meaning, it is at this point that one
really realizes that they exist. It is really at this
point that the last stage of shaping one’s mind really
develops. So much so that the great King of Babylon,
Nebuchadnezzar, captured and tried to use some of the
wisest men of Israel. Among the most intellectual were
Daniel, and the three Hebrew boys who were thrown in
the fire unburnt. When they were captured, they were
all under fifteen years of age. After Nebuchadnezzar’s
three years ‘brain-washing’ conversion strategy, some
were barely over fifteen years of age. This youth brain
washing strategy is key to controlling the masses and
most effective. In fact, Adolph Hitler knew it and said
that if he got a generation of youths, he could take
over the world. In other words, manipulation of the
masses can only be successful, if their minds were already
fashioned while being a youth.
Why? It is at this
point that one is most vulnerable to learn anything
lasting and once shaped, it can hardly break. It’s at
the teenage years that the clay is almost hard, so the
last reshaping must take place. Your mind could be marred
forever, so this part of one’s life must be dealt with
caution and not carelessly, as it is treated today –
with long lines of sensual partners from the preteens.
Why at this most vulnerable
time should one be seeking to know someone else, when
one hardly knows him or her self? Why should teens seek
to get their minds emotionally entangled when they don’t
know: 1) where they’re coming from 2) why they’re here
and 3) where they’re going? Why not spend some time
seeking the will of God for your life, which might take
years, especially depending on the enormity of God’s
purpose in your life?
Not doing this may
be the reason we have so many dysfunctional adults (“teenults”),
because in their teenage years, whether directly or
indirectly, they were yanked away from themselves, in
relation to God. Pulled from godly self-discovery and
being established in adulthood preliminaries. These
years are called adolescence, by interpretation that
should read “adult-lessons” and not “adulthood.”
One of the reasons
they were yanked away from themselves is peer pressure
and societal influences. Yes, teens might object, but
if they lived in an environment where there is no nudity
and sex on television, no ‘porn’ on the web and in magazines,
no public display of nasty affection, no improperly
covered persons walking the streets, less stress on
self vainly and much reverence for God, one wouldn’t
even feel like having a boy or girl friend; much more
pre-marital sex.
On the other hand,
some persons coming from a background where their parents
are ministers usually fall prey to unwed children and
many shocking occurrences, contrary to their parents’
belief. Why? All their lives, they may have been sheltered:
church, school, home, church outings. Such a person
sees no evil, speaks no evil and hears no evil; consequently
they do no evil. And stupidly, the parents didn’t tell
them of the many evils. So when the opportunity arose
to be exposed, BAM! They had no mechanism to deal with
what the real world is about (mostly in remote countries
with Christian teens going off to school in the West).
Notice also that without the influence of evil (TV,
cable, web, print, fad) they did no evil. But when the
exposure came, without knowing about it, many problems
arose.
To solve these and
other teen problems, take the example of the first man
created, Adam. God graced him to walk and talk with
him. By this relationship, God declared his purpose,
“dominion over the earth.” God also graced Adam to work
with him in ministry, ‘naming every animal’. Adam was
so into God that he was not thinking about a mate, but
it was God who decided it was not good for him to be
alone. From this, four biblical and true sex educatory
guidelines can be used for teens today. They are:
1. You should first
develop an excellent relationship with God, whereby
everyday you are in harmony with God as close to the
“pre-Adamic” state as possible; which can be found in
Christ.
2. You should then
search out your purpose, which only God can verify.
Do you know that it pleases God when a young person
sets their heart and time to find their purpose on earth?
This will not go unrewarded.
3. While this is ongoing,
strive to be active, mostly in ministry. It might not
be your ultimate purpose, but it usually should be something
leading up to it. Again, let God verify your purpose
and not an arbitrary person. So it means you have to
seek to have a relationship with God. Don’t you dare
let any arbitrary person dictate your purpose and it
hasn’t been rectified with the creator. Who does one
go to for a blue print, the architect or the construction
worker? Moreover, you have direct access to the throne
of God through Christ, no matter how young you are.
Remember the fifteen-year-old boy in the bible, Daniel,
he was more in tuned with God than everyone in Babylon.
4. Now, while all this
is ongoing, God is on the other side preparing the woman
or man that you will just adore (only the opposite sex).
Believe you me, you will, if you believe it. Then when
you ask your daddy, God, being in his presence every
second, he will just tell you and the peace of God will
go with it. Then it won’t take forever to get married,
for God would have set that compatibility already, not
lust; him knowing all things. At least give him that
much credit. Notice that God didn’t make Eve and tell
Adam to go and date her for a while and said, “If you
don’t like her, I’ll make another one for you, dearest.”
No, when God made Eve, Adam exclaimed, “WO!” “MAN!”
And so females were called from that point (don’t quote
me on that, though this is becoming a cliché). In other
words, one would not take apart a merchandise to try
and know it really well before buying it; instead, just
go to the maker and he will tell you where, how, what
type and when to obtain it. Then you can trust the maker,
for he is the one who made the “specs”. Would you go
to a device and ask, “What is your purpose in relation
to me?” Could it tell you? The same principle applies
to you in relation to finding a mate. Go to God! Also,
I found out something great while listening to the bible
on my MP3 CD player recently. It said, “Whoso findeth
a wife … obtaineth favour of the LORD” (Pro 18:22).
Then it dawned on me, nothing on earth - principles,
steps, intuition, outward appearances or anything will
guarantee you a real spouse. But what actually happens
is that anyone who marries the right person did so because
God grants him or her favor; they had nothing to do
with it. In other words, he likes you so he makes sure
nothing ties themselves to you that is not good, only
the real thing. And believe you me, I’ve learnt that
finding the right person for you is impossible. That’s
the reason the verse does use the word “findeth,” indicating
you doing something, but put it back into true perspective
by saying you really had nothing to do with it but simply
“obtaineth favour.” Therefore, if you really want a
good spouse, strive to please God.
So, from these four
guidelines, it all boils down to this bible verse, “But
seek ye first the kingdom of God, and his righteousness;
and all these things shall be added unto you” (Matt
6:33). With the Kingdom comes true sex education and
true guidance. And having an adept background and "track
record" in biblical exploits, the guidelines given
are biblically sound.
Having written all
that I must draw your attention again to Daniel and
the three Hebrew boys, whom I admire, although Babylon
tried to infiltrate their minds with Babylonian doctrines
and lifestyles, they did not ‘bow’. They were just teens,
but with God anything is possible. With God you can
stand on his word. Don’t give into peer pressure and
societal influences, give into God and stand on his
word. For his word is sure and stands forever. The boyfriend
and girlfriend mentality should be left until teens
have completed their Adam experience – knowing what
God has called them to do, unequivocally. Moreover,
God will give you the desires of your heart (Ps 37:4).
In fact, Christ was recorded as saying that if anyone
has a son and he asked for bread, would that parent
give him stones, or scorpions for eggs (Lk 11:11-13).
In other words, will God give you something to hurt
you or that is not years on end satisfying? No. God
will only give you the best.
If these biblical and
sex educatory guidelines were applied to our present
generation, the divorce rate would be zero. Frankly
suggesting that marriages that result in divorce have
failed to apply this principle of seeking God totally,
and developing a clear relationship; which can only
be sanctioned by being truly saved (acts 2:38).
This descriptive outline
of why teens should not be experimenting sexually in
no way violates the present agenda of sex education
in schools; but rather fulfills it, the correct way.
Dr. Lester Kirkendall of SIECUS (The Sex Information
and Education Council of the United States) wrote in
'Sexuality and Man':
"The purpose of
sex education is not...to control and suppress sex expression,
as in the past, but to indicate the immense possibilities
for human fulfillment that human sexuality offers. The
individual must be given sufficient understanding to
incorporate sex most fruitfully and responsibly into
his present and future life."
Giving biblical and
true sex educatory guidelines is the best way to give
"sufficient understanding to incorporate sex most
fruitfully and responsibly." And that is, dating
and sexual experiments (marriage) should be left for
adulthood and maturity in Christ.
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